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Scared Selfless

This is a first person clear and powerful account of child abuse (physically & mentally), child rape, sex trafficking, child pornography, and torture; and how one girl grew into a woman, who not only worked to overcome such horrors, but had such a determination, she went on to become a doctor. A licensed successful psychologist, helping others make the transition from fear to love. As a survivor of child rape myself and someone who works with other survivors, I find this book to be a beautiful mix of personal testimony and psychological treatise on the elements necessary to heal from the trauma of sexual abuse. It will quite simply explain you to you.

I feel more educated on abuse, abusers, and mental illness having read it. It’s actually the best book I’ve ever read about child abuse\rape. The author explained feelings I’ve felt for years but couldn’t find the words to describe. I truly got a lot of answers from reading this book.

And while I highly recommend it to anyone who desires a greater understanding of themselves or these themes, I also want to state that this book contains a great deal of painful, shocking realities which could be triggering to some readers. It’s definitely not for the weak of mind.

In telling her truth, this author is making a difference in more lives than she will ever possibly know. Her story also speaks to the power that compassion and love have in healing from some of the most traumatic circumstances.

Want to read more of Kerri’s book recommendations? Check out this post:
Your Life is Your Own, What Will You Do With It?

Want to read more of Kerri’s journey in healing? Check out these post:
The Essence of a Little Girls Loneliness and Pain
Love Letter to the Wounded child Inside
Toxic Family Members > God says “Walk Away”
Thank You for Causing Me So Much Pain
Toxic Family Members – 10 ways to Rescue & Save Yourself
Dear Rapist
My Mothers Legacy of Shame – An Open Letter – From Me, the Daughter She Didn’t Protect

What Kind Of Light Do You, Yourself, Shine On The World?

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This is so very true. As children, learning, we have poor judgement and therefore make mistakes, but we are to learn right from wrong in those mistakes, take responsibility for ourselves and mature. In this, our repeated actions, are what shape our character. They write on our slate and define who we are to everyone around us. We either choose to do right or we choose to do wrong.

You can say anything about yourself, just as others can say anything about you but it’s not what you say or what others say, it’s what you do. “Your actions” that show everyone who you are.

A person might think of themselves as frugal, but one look at their credit card statement can always tell otherwise.

The content of your character truly reveals itself through your actions and your behaviors, only.

If you say you want to spend time with someone but repeatedly fail to show up, you are communicating that you aren’t willing to follow through on your promises.

If you’re repeatedly late, you are saying “My time is more precious than yours”.

If you say you are trustworthy but repeatedly lie, you are communicating that your word can’t be trusted. You are quite simply a “liar” and at the end of the day, no one likes their intelligence insulted.

If you take what is not yours, you are a thief. No one likes a thief either.

If you say you want to change but repeatedly fail to make an effort, you are communicating that you aren’t willing to do things differently, you are happy living in the error of your ways. You are only concerned with yourself and don’t care if you hurt others.

When someone acknowledges these character traits in others, it isn’t forming judgments. It’s recognizing the facts so that they may make wise choices based on how things are—not how they want them to be.

Maya Angelou used to say, “When people show you who they are, believe them.”

It’s never your fault when someone else hurts you, but it’s within your power to stop allowing it.

If you recognize you’re being mistreated, choose to set and enforce boundaries. You can people a second chances and sometimes even a third or fourth because we all deserve that however, at that point you need to open your eyes and say enough is enough because no one has the right to mistreat you.

A genuine person shows up with honest love, they don’t mistreat you; they don’t hurt you; they don’t talk down to you and they aren’t only concerned with themselves.

My dad used to say: “Show me your friends, the people you keep and I’ll tell you who you are as an individual”. I’ve always been mindful of that and today give credit to him for the strong inner circle of friends I’ve had and maintained over the years.(You know who you are)

Everyone knows you by your true character. It’s your stamp of individuality. It’s all of your distinctive qualities rolled up into a light that either shines on the world or rolls over it like a dark, unwanted cloud. What kind of light do you, yourself, shine on the world?

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Grandparent Rights? No!

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There are a group of people who are currently lobbying for grandparent rights. Visitation rights, specifically.

They claimed June 14th as ‘their’ day.

Flag Day, in the US, has now been co-opted by folks who have their own agenda, and frankly, it’s a frightening one.

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The Duggar Girls Were Preyed On By Their Parents After Being Sexually Abused

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So I’ve had a few days to get my thoughts together on the Duggar story that is all over the news. A couple of people have asked me to share my two cents so here it is: Continue reading The Duggar Girls Were Preyed On By Their Parents After Being Sexually Abused

Toxic Family Members > God says “Walk Away”

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I am often asked why I don’t associate with my birth mother, my brother, and two of my half-brothers. The conversations all start with, “How is your…?” To which I reply, “I’m not really sure, I haven’t seen them or talked to them in years”. Then I am asked “Why?” To keep it simple, I  just say that we took different paths in life, which sums it up in a nutshell, but that never seems to be an acceptable answer, because as soon as it’s said, the interrogation begins. At this point, I usually just say that the house I grew up in was abusive so I walked away, so I wouldn’t become a product of that environment. I am then told, in so many words, that it’s sinful and wrong that I’ve cut off ties with my family; that it doesn’t matter that they were or are abusive to me, the proper thing to do is be patient and tolerant of their sins.

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