I am often asked why I don’t associate with my birth mother, my brother, and two of my half-brothers. The conversations all start with, “How is your…?” To which I reply, “I’m not really sure, I haven’t seen them or talked to them in years”. Then I am asked “Why?” To keep it simple, I just say that we took different paths in life, which sums it up in a nutshell, but that never seems to be an acceptable answer, because as soon as it’s said, the interrogation begins. At this point, I usually just say that the house I grew up in was abusive so I walked away, so I wouldn’t become a product of that environment. I am then told, in so many words, that it’s sinful and wrong that I’ve cut off ties with my family; that it doesn’t matter that they were or are abusive to me, the proper thing to do is be patient and tolerant of their sins.
We all have to set boundaries for ourselves. It’s very important. Boundary setting is not about getting other people to change. It is about deciding what you are prepared to tolerate and then communicating those limits firmly and consistently.
The calendar has come into conversation a lot, just in researching the history of the Easter holiday so it’s been on my mind. During my research and over the last couple of years I’ve been told by many friends and associates, including some that are leaders in the church, that the calendar is different today than it was in the day that the Ten Commandments were given, so wanting details, I did a little research and learned some truly shocking facts about the calendar.
I’ve always been curious why we celebrate certain holidays, like Easter and Christmas. They’re not listed in the bible anywhere but right now churches and everyone around me is setting up to celebrate the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus Christ on what they call Easter Sunday.
This is a great question that I read yesterday, asked by Jim Staney.
How many of you would remind God of how much He loves your enemies? How many of you would be willing to actually ask God to remove the charges from them; to not punish them; to forgive them, for they know not what they do?
Years ago, I couldn’t have done it but today I can and it brings me peace, peace that was one adrift in my life. Peace that God has now anchored in my soul. What about you?