Sex is Like Glue

This is a fantastic article posted by fellow blogger . Waiting for marriage to have sex is the truly one of the best things you can do for yourself.

Sex is like glue
Sex is like super human glue. God never intended for humans to have multiple sexual partners. Instead He designed and created our bodies, souls, minds and spirits to be sexually bonded for life with one partner in marriage. “But what’s the big deal?” you may be asking, “It’s only sex. How does breaking one relationship and moving on to another have anything to do with my mind, body, soul or spirit?” And why is it so important to save sex for marriage?

God says in His Word that when we engage in the intimate act of sexual relations with someone, we become one with them, a complete, all-encompassing union in our minds, souls and spirits as well as our bodies. So what happens when we become one with multiple partners? Physically, our body, affection and attention may move on to someone new after a breakup, but what about our souls, spirits and minds? Are they able to put the past behind so easily? Can every part of me move into the next relationship brand new without residue attached from the previous ones? If there is sexual residue, what does it consist of? How does it impact me now or in future relationships? Great questions.

Sex is powerful. Our first sexual experience is often the one that we remember the most and has the power to negatively impact the rest of our lives. Whether from abuse, trauma or our own choices, sex outside marriage has the potential to alter your view of yourself, others and sex. It can propel you on a destructive course of promiscuity and other high-risk behaviors.

It can impair your ability to choose healthy people to date and marry. It can lead to sexual addiction or dysfunction. And it can affect your ability to have close and intimate relationships with others and with God. It also leaves the most painful wounds. Inside marriage, God designed sex to be a bond that is powerful and unifying. Outside marriage, the bonds of sex can be devastating.

Long after the lover has gone, the bond we’ve created stays with us, impacting our lives and future relationships in a negative way. Research shows that teenagers who began sexual activity at a young age and have multiple partners are less than half as likely to have stable committed relationships in their thirties than someone who waited to initiate sex later in life.

The greater number of sexual partners, the greater the residue, and the greater the impact.

13 thoughts on “Sex is Like Glue

  1. Kerri – Interesting article. But strikingly missing are stories from Christian singles who are living chaste lives here and now who have not had sexual relationships, who have graduated from sex ed classes and glue, whose views of others have not been altered, who are not living lives of promiscuity or other high risk behaviors, whose abilities to choose and date healthy people are not impaired, who are not addicted to sex, whose abilities to have close friendships have not been altered, and who don’t have painful wounds to take into a marriage. I would just encourage you to keep your eyes open for people who break those stereotypes, no matter how few in number we may be. John, 52, waiting

  2. Kerri, I will always admire you and Don for waiting (for four years, my goodness!) to consummate your marriage to honor the command and desire of God. I know He has blessed you with a wonderful relationship and will continue to bless your marriage for honoring His desire higher than your own. That choice you made, and the covenant between you, is a marvelous testimony of obedience. It certainly testifies to your priorities. God richly bless you and Don for decades to come. Y

    In Jesus’ precious name Steven Sawyer

      1. Hi Kerri and Steven… I just wanted to agree with both of you. Steven, we all miss seeing you and pray for you and your family. I also agree that God will bless marriages that wait to consummate the marital relationship… putting Him before lust. My 3 children have vowed to wait till marriage and my son jokingly says that he is probably one of few 25yo virgins. This posting is so true. Sex is a soul tie that links you to that person forever.. the good, the bad, and the ugly behaviors like a download of everything that other person is. … until the soul tie is broken by God. God gave me this about soul ties as I was writing my book, The Walking Wounded. That is the reason that so many victims of abuse have a hard time breaking out of the abusive relationship as well as why the cycle is continued. These soul ties keep the cycle going. Thanks for sharing this posting Kerri. Many blessings to both of you, Kerri and Steven!!

      2. Kerri, I just thank God for what He has done for us. He not only rescued me but also rescued my children from a life of abuse while opening all of our eyes to the miraculous possibilities in following Him. I hope you read my book as we both reach out to the broken. Thanks for all that you do to help others Kerri!!

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