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Scared Selfless

This is a first person clear and powerful account of child abuse (physically & mentally), child rape, sex trafficking, child pornography, and torture; and how one girl grew into a woman, who not only worked to overcome such horrors, but had such a determination, she went on to become a doctor. A licensed successful psychologist, helping others make the transition from fear to love. As a survivor of child rape myself and someone who works with other survivors, I find this book to be a beautiful mix of personal testimony and psychological treatise on the elements necessary to heal from the trauma of sexual abuse. It will quite simply explain you to you.

I feel more educated on abuse, abusers, and mental illness having read it. It’s actually the best book I’ve ever read about child abuse\rape. The author explained feelings I’ve felt for years but couldn’t find the words to describe. I truly got a lot of answers from reading this book.

And while I highly recommend it to anyone who desires a greater understanding of themselves or these themes, I also want to state that this book contains a great deal of painful, shocking realities which could be triggering to some readers. It’s definitely not for the weak of mind.

In telling her truth, this author is making a difference in more lives than she will ever possibly know. Her story also speaks to the power that compassion and love have in healing from some of the most traumatic circumstances.

Want to read more of Kerri’s book recommendations? Check out this post:
Your Life is Your Own, What Will You Do With It?

Want to read more of Kerri’s journey in healing? Check out these post:
The Essence of a Little Girls Loneliness and Pain
Love Letter to the Wounded child Inside
Toxic Family Members > God says “Walk Away”
Thank You for Causing Me So Much Pain
Toxic Family Members – 10 ways to Rescue & Save Yourself
Dear Rapist
My Mothers Legacy of Shame – An Open Letter – From Me, the Daughter She Didn’t Protect

Your Life Is Your Own, What Will You Do With It?

I love to read so when I travel I hit all the local used books stores and load up on books. I’ve had this books for quite some time but now wish I’d bought it when it was first released and paid full price because it explains my mindset and what’s in my heart, better than I ever could find the words to do.

I strongly believe that every survivor of rape in any form (sexual abuse\sexual assault\child molestation\incest, etc.) must create their own pathway to recovery. What works for one might not work for another. Therapy, medicine and counseling might be the right path for some people, but not for others. It was not the path for me. I strongly feel that unless a person has walked in my shoes, they truly cannot relate to the pain, darkness and confusion; the act of rape drapes around a sufferers soul. It’s an agony that drives the very sunshine from all of parts of life.

If you’ve ever heard me speak, had a deep conversation with me about my childhood or read my testimony, you know that above all things I recognize those that were a light for me in the midst of all the darkness. God, Paul Fazekas (my dad), Cheryl Morris Fazekas, Casey Watson, Renee Watson, Wally Hunt, Robin Foose, Mr. and Mrs. Hanson, Karen Hack, Jean Fisher, Lori Fisher, Margaret Smith, Joe Fazekas II, Richard Thacker, Tammy McNamara, Pam Arnold, Mike Poole, Christy Copeland, John Copeland, Connie Copeland, Joy Copeland, Gail Neely, Beth Posey, Cliff Loehr, Alan Holland, Kevin Humphry, David Santos, Stephanie Hall, Naomi Gold, Mike Fazekas, Daniel Fazekas, Stephanie Fazekas, Bob Hodo, Vicki Hilliard, Daniel Bradley, Drake Horton, Zoraida Cox, Janice Munoz and several others. I’ve truly had a tremendous amount of people to inspire me and I’ve never failed to say how wonderfully grateful I am.

Each of these individuals have taught me something, bestowed wisdom upon my soul, dried my tears, eased my pain, and pointed me to today and they did so, unbeknownst to them, by simply granting me their patience, showering me with love and favoring upon me true friendship full of faith, hope and optimism.

I am the person I am today because I made a choice to follow people that inspired me, individuals that were strong where I was weak, souls that fostered me up, branded me with a character of courage, integrity and honor. These spirits broke down my walls, smothered my fears, shattered my silence, and set the truth free. These individuals launched me forward, helped me make better decisions for myself, and to see my life and what I’d been through with a little more clarity.

Looking back, in the midst of all my suffering I was surrounded by very strong people. Strong people put in my path by God; and God’s people, just like Satan’s; they know their own, and they gravitate towards their own, the difference being the love they bequeath upon the world and each other. That is what God wants for all of us.

Just like my spirit, your spirit is resilient. God created us that way. He gave us the ability to forgive and to leave our past behind us, to look forward instead of back. This does not mean those at fault are not held accountable, it simply means that you choose to be grateful for all the good in the midst of all the bad, and all the good you have in life now. Its choosing to more forward, be happy and not give those that have hurt you another second of your life.

Life is a journey for us all. We all face trials. We all have ups and downs. But at the end of each day, we are masters of our own fate. We are the ones who decide how we are going to react to life. You can handicapped yourself and waste it or you can empower yourself, be grateful and love every minute of it. I encourage you to empower yourself! Truth and happiness go hand in hand. Speak it, live it and love it because every situation you find yourself in, things could be worse. Always be grateful for the good that you have!

The 13 years of sexual abuse that I suffered in my home, has enabled me to help others. I can reach out to victims and help them to learn to be happy. Because I have actually lived through what I’ve experienced, I am able to be a voice for change and I am grateful for that! I am grateful for the opportunities that I’ve had to help other people. And I am grateful for all of those that have helped me along the way!

Your life is your own, what will you do with it?

Want to read more of Kerri’s journey in healing? Check out these post:

The Essence of a Little Girls Loneliness and Pain
Love Letter to the Wounded child Inside
Toxic Family Members > God says “Walk Away”
Thank You for Causing Me So Much Pain
Toxic Family Members – 10 ways to Rescue & Save Yourself
Dear Rapist
My Mothers Legacy of Shame – An Open Letter – From Me, the Daughter She Didn’t Protect

Thank You For Causing Me So Much Pain

Dear Mom,

I’m not bitter with you, I feel sorry for you. I feel sorry that you didn’t want to be a part of my life and my successes. I feel sorry that you would rather be my biggest failure. I feel sorry that you chose a life without me in it. I feel sorry that I’ve accomplished so much in the last couple of years and you’ve heard nothing about it. I feel sorry that you have no right to be proud of me. I feel sorry that you will never be a part of my life again.  I feel sorry that I let you hurt me as badly as you did. I feel sorry that I put so much trust and effort into building a relationship with you; a relationship that you just didn’t want. I feel sorry that I had faith in you. Most of all, though, I feel sorry that you will forever feel that I’m simply not good enough.

Continue reading Thank You For Causing Me So Much Pain

The Duggar Girls Were Preyed On By Their Parents After Being Sexually Abused

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So I’ve had a few days to get my thoughts together on the Duggar story that is all over the news. A couple of people have asked me to share my two cents so here it is: Continue reading The Duggar Girls Were Preyed On By Their Parents After Being Sexually Abused

The Day I Attempted Suicide


The Day I Attempted Suicide

“You are such a selfish person Kerri, truly pathetic, I don’t have time for this shit!”

That’s what my mother said to me the day I attempted suicide. Continue reading The Day I Attempted Suicide