They Are Rapists and Should Be Labeled As Such

They are rapist and should be labeled as suchI often hear people use the terms “sexually abused”, “sexually molested”, “molested”, incest and “child molestation but if you have lived through or suffered any of these experiences or know someone who has, you know someone that’s been raped.

I’ve used these terms myself in the past but in healing, I’ve learned that I was not abused or molested, I WAS RAPED.

What was done to me was an act of violation, power and domination against me. This is what abuse is, of any kind. It’s a smothering violence that makes a person give up and give in, suffocating them to a spiritual death.

Any time someone touches another person, forces themselves on another person or makes another individual do something sexual that they do not want to do, do not consent to do and do not want to experience– IT’S RAPE. Society can call it whatever they want, but its rape. They are not sexual predators, pedophiles or child molesters; THEY ARE RAPIST and should be labeled as such.

Politically, the phrase sexual assault was created to put the concept of violence into the word rape. This is good in the sense that it was the first step in moving responsibility from the victim to the abuser but the problem with this is that there is no “Sexual Relation” in rape. The only relation in rape is one that involves power – one side has it and the other side doesn’t. It is sexual only in the sense that all humans have sex organs.

Rape is an expression of anger. It’s not motivated by sex. It’s an act of hostility and control. Rape like domestic abuse is violence. One abuser commits the crime with their fist – the other use’s their penis.

So exposing crimes of rape shouldn’t be any more personal than talking about a person being mugged or beaten in the downtown square and we hear those stories on the news as often as they happen. The victims aren’t ashamed and the stories aren’t too personal to broadcast but because society views rape as sex, the crime of rape is rarely exposed.

We need to work towards changing this distorted idea of how society defines rape because as long as rape is viewed as sex, victims are going to feel trapped in shame that will silence them. When the world tells a victim that they don’t want to hear it – when they block these crimes from the news and organizations refuse to hear us speak – they are telling a victim that they’re at fault.

Victims don’t like to tell our stories, (we wish we didn’t have the experience to tell) just like others don’t like to hear them but talking brings exposure to these crimes and with that we can work together, creating laws that define rape for what it is making punishments severe, protecting future generations, boys and girls, men and women alike.

It doesn’t matter if you’re male or female or if you’re raped as a child or raped as an adult – the devastation that it has on a life is all the same. It’s a deep, lasting humiliation – it’s a shame that wreaks havoc on a victim – it’s a slow and, rather painful death, emotionally, spiritually and sometimes even physically. It’s a trauma that controls a victim for life the way they think about themselves and about others and the way they interact in the world. It’s disfiguring and leaves behind endless issues of intolerable emotions that force us to give words to pain that we ourselves struggle daily to understand.

Being raped is not who I am – it’s my past – it’s a trauma that I have survived – it’s merely where I’m from. What matters is what I do with my life. It’s how I live.

So like the great authors of the many books within our Bible, I’m using my experiences – my words towards the good of others. I tell my story and I share my pain to encourage healing, compassion, support and understanding in others. I tell my story because the more we talk about these crimes the more fear we put into these perpetrators.

THEY ARE RAPIST AND SHOULD BE LABELED AS SUCH!

 

92 thoughts on “They Are Rapists and Should Be Labeled As Such

  1. I think its important as we grow older that we realize those events were a small part of ones life. There are those who spend their whole lives being a “victim”. In the end you have a choice.

      1. I am totally convinced that until men of my generation (I am 53) will openly discuss how being abused changed their lives forever things will not get better. When I look back and the amount of carnage. Then there are those who use what happened to them as a crutch.
        Something I have never understood is this. Many mental health professional have their offices is mutli floor office buildings. When you walk into their office it is like you are walking into a lawyers office. They have all these plaques on the walls. Then they expect people to reveal their inner most thoughts. That makes no sense at all!

      2. Speaking of rape, at any age, is truly a hard thing to do. Society has the world programmed to stand in judgment, not to help, be compassionate and seek justice. We teach our children to stay virgins and not have sex until they are married but then society looks at rape as sex. There is a difference between giving oneself and being raped but the world does not see this clearly. It’s no wonder victims don’t speak out.

        In the case of mental health, the only counselors I’ve found that can truly help rape victims are counselors that who are in the mental health profession because they’ve been raped themselves. This is why AA is such a successful treatment program for alcoholics. There are just certain things a person cannot read about in a book and understand. This is must my opinion.

      3. You are so right. Rape is Rape. Rape is not sex. It is a crime and frankly if it was up to me the penalties would be tougher than what they are. If you look at my blog its full of concerns for the well being of women. We have schools who pass out condoms. A rape victim speaks out and gets the courage to go to trial and the first thing the defense team does is attack her. I had a situation years ago that a woman who I had been see for sometime and we had not been inmate. Well one night we started ( I am trying to phase this as not to offend you) becoming intimate. Then she says to me stop . I stopped and we snuggled for hours. She said she thought she was ready but she wasn’t. It was my responsibility as a man when she said stop to stop. period. She looked at me and said “I’m so sorry”. To be a parent of a teenage girl would be a nightmare.
        When it comes to AA I owe my wife’s life to AA. I came within an eyelash of losing her to booze. That was December 22, 1998 and she has been sober since.

        Your opinion is always welcomed. I want women to have a place where they can feel free to express themselves.

      4. Thank you for sharing your stories with us, Duke and setting the example for anyone reading this. We laugh when little boys tickle little girls and the little girl screams out “No” but the little boy continues to tickle her and then we wonder as that little boy matures why he doesn’t understand what the word “No” means when it comes to touching women and boundaries. It really goes back to teaching children to have the same standards for themselves as others and respecting and loving one another as themselves. I’m so glad to hear of your wife is sober still today. What a blessing that is to hear!

      5. No problem. I just posted something that you are free to share. No means no. Was I frustrated as a man. Sure. I wouldn’t be human if I wasn’t. In ways though her and I holding each other was more intimate. Its also no means no when girls are touching boys. There does come a time when boys and girls get curious about their bodies.
        On my wife being sober. I searched the house one time the day after it happened. I was very clear with her that I will do everything I can to support her but I wasn’t going to hold her hand. I do hate the word relapse. I am sitting in my office right now and if she would walk in and say that she has been drinking. I wouldn’t be real thrilled about but tomorrow we would put the world on hold and get her the help she needs.

      6. Men and women bond on a different level. a greater spiritual level when holding / cuddling verses having sex. And yes, I agree that no means no for girls touching boys too. The laws should also be the same. It is rape if a grown woman like Mary Lou ???? lays down with a young boy like she did. I’m sure you know the case I am speaking of.

      7. Sure she raped him numerous times. Boys have those thoughts but it is up to the teacher to set guidelines. There is a cultural difference between boys and girls in how these things are looked at.
        When a boy lays down with his teacher he gets gold stars. When a girl lays down with a make teacher she is a tramp etc………….. They are both involved in an act that the adult should never have let happen. I don’t know about you but its nice to be able to communicate about these issues without getting not getting into the gutter. I do owe you a thank you. You gave me inspiration for my post about bikini’s. I like your term “lays down”. I’m always so afraid I will offend a woman with language that is not appropriate.

      8. No thank you necessary, my friend, we learn by communicating and our walks in life have been different so sharing is a great way to learn and grow, personally and spiritually. I appreciate a good talk. I’ve enjoyed this conversation today.

      9. me too. My spiritual life died sometime ago and I have no idea how to get it back. I have tried everything I know. If you have an idea let me know. It is nice to be able to discuss these things in a mature way without all the garbage. One of the issues I have with some of the mental health folks is this. They spend way to much time talking to themselves. Just so know I deal in Antiques an own a company called Get Me Out of Here LLC. Its a simple Google search. Take Care of Yourself!

      10. It’s a daily choice to walk in forgiveness, always look for the good and place yourself in prayer. It doesn’t sound easy because its not but the benefits of doing so are out of this world. I didn’t grow up in church but I always believed so I focused on that. I’ve been a spiritual student my whole life and I learn more everyday because I pursue it. That is what the “Coffee & Christ” show is all about. We help each other on our spiritual walk. Check it out if you get a chance. I’m on vacation at the beach so I ‘be been chatting with you on my iPhone which is not friend when it comes to reading other blogs. This is why I haven’t been able to check out your site. I will though as soon as I get my computer set up in the condo.

    1. Duke I agree with you. I am 56 and I have all but stormed the capital to get arrested to get their attention. I have written so many news people till I can’t remember who I haven’t . I have written and even called most of the talk shows that will take on the hard topics. For the past 13 years I have tried and tried and for only one exception of a 2 minute local interview I have been unable to get anyone to listen. It seems they only want to do the current sensational story and not ours from the past that we are still paying the price on. This will not stop me though. Maybe one day I will take my truck and drive up the most prominent place I can find and scream at the top of my lungs and make an event sensational enough to make a cover story the media can’t ignore.

    2. How does it help survivors having someone like you tell them how they should deal with their abuse?
      I have moved on from my abuse but I don’t insist that all other survivors do things my way, after all we are victims for our entire life it is just we don’t all have the tools or indeed the strength to “move on”

      1. By the way, I am in the demographic that you want to hear from (male 50 something) surely if I keep recounting my story I will be perpetuating my being a victim? I am a survivor.

      2. Things haven’t been going well, I have written some about it. I have had some input from Steven Sawyer so hopefully my faith will soon be restored to normal. Always a joy to read you. 🙂

      3. So sorry to hear that things are going well but glad to hear that you have been talking with Steven. He’s full of great insight. I will check your site and see what post have slipped by me. Also know that I am here if you ever need to talk.

      4. I’m confused by your comment but most comments will be allowed as will this. The someone like you comment is fascinating. In the end people do have a choice. They can deal with their issues or they can wallow in them. I have a long and storied history of fighting the establishment to get mental health to be treated the same as physical health by insurance companies. They are not.

      5. @1059duke
        The “people like you” comment refers to judgemental people, what gives me or indeed you the right to tell others how to survive their abuse no matter how severe the abuse that we manage to survive?
        as for “fighting the establishment” and they are not” why not give yourself a great big pat on the back! you come across as a person with very little empathy and a great deal of self importance.
        It’s been a pleasure not knowing you, have a lovely day.

      6. But not other abuse survivors? Because they wallow? I stand up for myself and you don’t like it, others can’t cope with their abuse and you don’t like that either? It appears that you find it tough being perfect. Now I really am done.

      7. I just wanted to chime in and say that it would helpful for the world as whole if mental health was treated the same as mental health. This truly has never made sense to me.

      8. I don’t believe any of us are saying that speaking out is for everyone. It is a very personal and difficult thing for me every time I speak. But for me it’s more about reaching out to help those that have been stuck. Stuck in the mental hell of their prison and to try and give them hope. The other reason for me is to educate as many people as possible about the horrors of the crime of sexual abuse, or as I un-sugar coat it and call it by it’s real name, it is RAPE, no PC or making it sound less than the physical violent invasion that it is. For may of us, I think the driving force is to try and make the laws so the criminals that destroy lives are not able to hide long enough or make the victim so scared that they stay quiet long enough as to escape punishment. It is a very personal choice to speak out, for both the victim and the survivor.

      9. I didn’t make my point clearly at first, sorry. It wasn’t the issue of speaking out that bothered me it was 1059duke saying that people who still suffer because of their abuse are “wallowing” I suffered horrendous abuse as a child which was followed by more abuse at the hands of the social worker I was given to help me overcome the abuse! I survived because of who I am and who I had around me, other people are not me and don’t have my support network therefore don’t survive the same way I did. Neither I nor 1959duke have any right to judge how or indeed if others survive or continue to live as victims. As for the title of the abuse, I would agree “rape is a more fitting name for the abuse of a child, I continue to say abuse because it is was I have called it for over 40 years and it has become a habit. The article was compelling, just one reply was WRONG!

      10. I understand completly. I do not believe it was meant to sound quite the way it sounded but that is not for me to say. There are far to many victims that have not and may never get the help and support that they deserve and need. For myself, I suffered being abused/raped for seventeen years and that is horrible. My personal belief is that even ONE event can and does scar some people so deep that they may never recover. I have had survivors come to me after speaking and tell me that they didn’t feel they suffered at all after hearing my story and I have to tell them that yes you did suffer. It is not about how may times it happened. It is about the fact that it did happen. There is no scale of 1-10 when it comes to suffering. Every victim is different mentally. I got to the point where I saw that I could continue the path that was PUT upon me or I could fight like hell.to try and change my future. I consider myself so lucky and blessed to have had a few people there to support me. And even though my abuser was a church director of music and education, I was able to go back to my faith and even the same church where on several occations I was raped just feet from the sanctuary. I was not going to be his victim any longer. I personally know many victims several are very close relatives. Some have escaped all the way and some only part way. But I have to say that I know one person that does fit the use of the word “wallowing”. He is a nephew that I love dearly and have tried so hard, as has his mother, to help and to get into help. He goes in after thousands are spent and the he just walks out sometime within hours of going in. He has spent over have his life behind bars and he says its not his fault that is because of what happened to him. He has spent his entire sdult life using his abuse to try and get from people what he wants. Using women to feel sorry to try and get them in bed, old folks to try and get money and intotheir house onlyto rob them and so on. There are some victims, not manyi would think, but they are out there that will always be the victim because they chose to. But there are far more victims that live in silince as I did for so many years that just need to find the right help and I pray to our Heavenly Father that they find that help and some peace in this life.

      11. Thank you for posting this. I agree that its a fight but if one truly wants to recover they can do it. We have to stay focused, always look for the good and count our blessings every second of every day. We not only have to be honest about what we suffered and how it affected us but we also have to be honest about the mistakes we’ve made along the way. Those that commit crime as an adult cannot hold those that hurt them as children responsible. You made a lot of really good points here. Thanks again for this comment.

      12. I just want to help others and those that love them. I don’t want to see victims/survivors devided by words. Our live are hard enough. So much of the way we think and talk about our past ate based solely on OUR personal journey. The way we talk about our past doesn’t mean that its the only truth out there. The only thing I think we can agree on is the path we travel is the toughest road we will ever have to navigate. And unfortunatly some never make it to a place of peace in their life.

  2. Reblogged this on Exceptionally Random and commented:
    I wanted to share this from a blog friend on Kerri Chronicles. I think she touched something really powerful and true in this, and that’s that people need to start changing the way rape is viewed, taking it away from sex and focusing on it as a crime, just like stealing or beating someone up. There is a lot of shame that happens with sexual abuse/rape victims and I think it’s because we don’t look at it like a crime in the same way you would a robbery. Just some interesting thoughts. Have a read. It’s an excellent blog.

  3. 2 Things. First, you’re a very beautiful person Kerri, I hope you know and remember that always and it’s a testament to your strength and light having the courage to talk about what’s happened to you. Second, one point in particular you made spoke to me and was something I hadn’t really thought about before. When you compared rape to another crime like mugging or stealing or what have you. I think you’re really on to something with that, and that’s that as rape victims, at least for me, it’s a shame that is placed on you and it’s associated more with sex than a crime taking place. You’re told it’s your fault, you feel dirty, you don’t want to talk about it. I think you’re totally right that if we treated it as any other crime, and not sex, then it would most definitely be reported more and hopefully spread awareness and help women. I never thought of it like that before, but wow. Brilliant article. I want to reblog this if that’s ok?

    1. You are very kind Random. you comment warms my heart. Thank you for this and for your friendship. I am truly touched. The one thing I love about blogging is how much we all learn and grow through each other from our real lives and experiences. Feel free to reblog. Thank you for being so considerate and helping me to help others. Lots of love to you, my friend.

      1. Agreed. I avoided blogging for the longest time because I thought it was just kind of words drifting of into space, but I learn all the time from people I follow and who follow me. It really is amazing, and you find a sense of community which is really amazing. Love to you also and thanks for letting me reblog it. 🙂

    1. Hi David, thank you for posting this, you hit the nail on the head when you noted the names are altered depending on the circumstances to make others in society feel less of a failure for not protecting our most precious resource, our children. I’ve done volunteer work in the past handling rape response for the city and the police, advocates for child services and even those in charge of treating the child, look at rape as one big joke. They shift the blame on the victims to make themselves feel better. If you get a chance, check this out http://kerrichronicles.com/2013/04/10/thoughts-opinions/. It’s a tragic story that I wrote an article about that touches on what you wrote about in your post.

  4. As a survivor myself, my story being the post “SHE SURVIVED” it all, yesterday, you label them for what they are. No one has the right to hurt another human being. A woman suffering from PTSD because of such acts, if she lives, never totally recovers. God Bless , Barb

  5. Reblogged this on The Abuse Expose' with Secret Angel and commented:
    “Rape like domestic abuse is violence!” I agree with Kerri’s statement and as victims of all of these violent abuses, we need to speak out. Bringing attention to the violence, exposes the truth instead of hiding it where it festers like a deep wound. Healing comes with exposing, releasing the pain, instead of holding it in, and God wants to heal all of us.

  6. Kerri, thanks for sharing your story. I know that God is calling all victims of the abuses of this world, including RAPE to speak out to help others. I joyfully join you as part of His army. I hope you don’t mind that I re-blog this onto my site. Your voice matters and will encourage many others to speak out.. Many blessings to you!!!

    1. Thank you, Angel and thank you for leading our army and for the reblog! Strong men and women like yourself, with such outstanding courage are making such a great impact on the world! Big Hugs and many blessings back at you!

      1. Thank you so much Kerri!! I just walk in obedience as the Lord leads me. I knew before He led me to start this blog that He is building an army. He is our leader as we all follow Him. As we speak out, others will be led to speak out and the bondage will be broken and healing will occur in Jesus’ Name!! Thanks again!!!

  7. So true Kerri “It’s a trauma that controls a victim for life the way they think about themselves and about others and the way they interact in the world. It’s disfiguring and leaves behind endless issues of intolerable emotions that force us to give words to pain that we ourselves struggle daily to understand.”

    Although I, like Proudly above, am glad there are other terms to use. Rape is so often thought of as a penis/vagina interaction under force. The term rape is the correct term of course. To be forced to have anyform of sexual intercourse under duress. Sexual intercourse requires genital contact, but not from both sides of the “rape”. Any form of sexual abuse is rape…Sadly many think there are different sorts of rape and there is an acceptable level of being raped. It is truly unbelievable where the law stands on this….if you are with someone and you are dressed to attract the opposite sex and end up being raped it is acceptable rape because you led that person to a sexual frenzy and therefore you asked to be raped!

    I do so hope your communication with Steven Sawyer will instigate a new way of looking at the whole area of rape/sexual abuse etc and more rapists/sexual abusers are locked up.

    1. Thank you, Amanda. The whole system in regards to rape and how victims are treated and perpetrators are punished is so upside down and backwards. At this point, all we have is each other, our experiences and our willingness and determination to make a difference.

  8. As a victim of multiple forms of ‘abuse’, I must, unfortunately, disagree with some of what you said. I wasn’t ‘raped’, in the instances of sexual abuse. I was taken advantage of, yes. I was violated, yes. But I wasn’t raped.

    While I understand the reasoning behind what you said in your post, and actually agree that in many more cases than it is said, rape would be the proper term, I disagree that ALL victims of abuse should be termed rape.

    I guess I just wanted to say that not all of the victims feel the same way, is all. Just putting another view out there. Thank you for sharing, though, and offering another view to people about abuse.

    What matters most is that it’s addressed, no matter whether we all agree on what is said or not!

  9. I agree with you. Sexual assault emphasizes the sex part, when really it is an attack.
    Peace to you and all who must overcome the effects of attacks

  10. Personally, I don’t really like the word rape given the narrow definition I so often see–that it’s just about penetrative sex and always male-female. I was sexually abused by men and women since infancy, and they did not always penetrate. To sexually abuse a very young child, the things done are often more subtle then ‘raping’ an adult, though extremely damaging. Anyway, I appreciate your point but I’m glad there are different terms, since I see my experience is often excluded from how people frame the subject.

    1. Thank you for your comment, Proudly and I am sorry to hear that you have suffered at the hands of others in evil. I see your point and appreciate you sharing with me. When I was trying to sort out how I was feeling after what I’d been through and how the laws in the state in place are defined, I found the definition of rape spelled out as “an act of plunder, violent seizure, or abuse; despoliation; violation.” You are right that the things done to a small child are subtle compared to being ‘raping’ as an adult but I feel the emotional damage is the same. We never walk in the world the same as we did before the act because the act of rape, no matter how defined by law or terms, seizes our being – our individual self. I wish you all the best in your healing and thank you again for your comment.

  11. Trigger warning: Thank you for sharing this. I’ve often thought when talking about my own past and using the words “sexual abuse” that it really widens it to so much interpretation. Rape is what it was. I was raped, but I find it difficult to just say “I was raped” because that implies just the once, when it was more times than I can count. I’m never quite sure what to say.
    My Therapist calls it sexual abuse, but he also uses the word rape a lot, even to describe assaults that were not strictly by law classed as rape, but as he said, were the same.
    Some of the things that affect me the most were not rape as defined by law, but assault by penetration, to describe it as a sexual assault, or abuse downplays it for me somehow, minimises it for me. (not that there is anything minimal in any kind of assault). I’m not sure if I am explaining myself well enough!
    Anyway, thanks for this

    1. Thank you for reading and for your comment. You are explaining yourself well and enough, Shedding. I totally understand where you are coming from. I was raped more than once and by more than one person in my family and shared amongst some of their friends. We were exploited and raped (as defined in the dictionary) and that is how I share or explain it to people. Rape is a spirit violation so saying we were sexually assaulted does; in fact, minimize the crime. It takes away from the brutality of the crime. The crime of rape, even without busted lips and stab wounds is still brutal and should not be minimized by society, laws, the justice system, etc. Thank you for sharing with me, Shedding. I hope to talk more with you in the future.

      1. Thank you for understanding. I hope you don’t mind, your post prompted me to thrash out my own thoughts on this on my blog. I really appreciate you bringing this up, it’s really made me think.

  12. I am a male survivor of rape from the age of 9-28 and stayed quiet until I was 42. When I was about 18 I had a gun in my mouth but couldn’t follow through. By staying quiet until I was 42 left me sitting for almost four months planning ways to commit suicide that would make it look like an accident so insurance would pay my mom.
    I managed to make it past that time by worrying it would be found out and by running into an old friend that I hadn’t seen in years and was a therapist, neither of these happened by accident.
    I have come to a place in my life that has made it possible for me to speak to groups about my past and all the physical and mental problems that being raped has caused me in my life.
    The term for rare when I was growing up was rape. There was 1st, 2nd and 3rd degree and maybe other classifications but rape was rape. At some point in time some politician or politically correct group decided it needed to have a more warm and fuzzy sound so as to not sound like such a horrible thing anymore.
    The lawmakers across the country need to stop trying to talk out of both sides of their mouths when a sex crime makes the headlines and get exposure while the media is around and say Change, Change, Change as long as the incident is in the headlines. When the headlines disappear so does the politician.
    Several years ago I wrote ever single state Politian in Florida in the Senate, House and Congress. I wrote the Governor and his wife and the Lt. Governor. I wrote the then President and his wife and the Vice President and his wife. I wrote them about the need to change the laws regarding all sexual crimes. Out of the over three hundred letters I sent out I received replies from eleven. They see no importance in changing laws that don’t benefit them in some way evidently. In the meantime more children and adults continue to have their lives ruined.

    1. Thank you for reading my post and sharing your story with me, my friend. This is such a tragic situation that will leave many to suffer in the future years to come. How courageous of you to write all of those letters and what a shame it is that only 11 wrote back. That is terrible! We have a come along way in some areas to make things better and make it easier for victims to speak out but we still have a long way to go for true justice. I look forward to getting to know you and if you interested you can get to my story of survival on my about page. All the best to you my friend.

      1. If I can ever be of any assistance to you in any way please get in touch. The most important thing to me is letting others know that they can get through this. Never ever stop fighting for yourself and find someone to help you. I will talk to anyone that wants to talk whether they are the victim, family, friend or any one else. As a survivor I first wanted to stay anonymous but God put it on me to stand up so others can see that they to can survive.

  13. Though I can not relate personally to your experience, I can be in anguish and suffer pain and regret for the horror that you and other rape and abuse victims suffer. One friend has been in therapy for seven years for the rape she experienced as a child. She seems unable to put much of the post traumatic stress syndrome behind her. Rape is Satan at his worst. Rape is a scourge on our society. And, like you say, unfortunately our politically correct institutions want to make rape a euphemism such as “sexual molestation” or “sexual abuse”. The unfortunate stumbling block to change, in my opinion, is that the general public doesn’t want to hear your stories. They don’t want to admit it’s a problem, because they think, naively, that kind of thing doesn’t happen to them. I wish I knew how to help. It is very frustrating to me, because I’ve been exposed to it and know several women, like yourself, who have gone through it. Keep telling your story, and I will keep praying that something will change. God bless you, Kerri. You are courageous and committed. You and your story will touch and change many people.

    1. Thank you, Steven. You are such a blessing! The worst thing about rape is that most rapes happen within a family by a close family member or friend. Its happening on every street in every family across america and in every church. The difference is that some of us have our eyes wide open and some choose to keep their eyes shut. Maybe if we had a law that tattood the words ‘RAPIST’ or ‘CHILD RAPIST’ across the faces of the guilty, in big dark or bright colored letters that became neon signs that glowed in the dard and shined bright at night, those that live with their eyes closed would see.

      1. Thank you. I’m going to be praying about a week-long series on my blog about and by women who have survived rape or abuse (sexual, physical or emotional) I want to make contact with the other women I know who have survived to see if they would be interested in sharing. I want my readers to be more aware, as you have made me, of the pervasive nature of this horrible sin against women and little children. Could we talk more about this on a phone call? I need to commit it to prayer first and I would definitely like you to play a major part in the series. We would, of course, promote your website and show. Let me know your thoughts. Thank you and God bless you for your kind comments and support.

      2. That would be great. My skype name is stevesaw3. I don’t believe I’m connected to you. If you send me your skype name I will send you a friend invite so we can skype together.

      3. I’ll try to skype with you next week. Let me know when the best time and day will be. My Wednesday is pretty booked. And on the 28th I’ve got to fix and take a casserole to a couple from our praise team who just had their first baby. Can’t wait to see her.

Why hello, friend! Thanks for sharing your comments. Should you have a question, please feel free to ask it here and I'll do my best to reply promptly. Thanks for stopping by! xo Kerri