*WARNING TO FATHERS* > You’re Needed!

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This is a fabulous post by a fellow blogger, Jimmy Hinton. This is as real as it gets. I have a friend L.C. Smith who built his non-profit organization, R. Fathers M.A.D, by devoting his life to impacting the lives of young men without fathers. They also have a mission to reclaim fatherhood by taking a stand and declaring that it’s not acceptable for fathers to abandon their children no matter the circumstances. Check out the R.Fathers M.A.D organization HERE.

Don’t just read this post here, check out Jimmy Hinton’s site also. There is alway an interesting read on his site so you will never be disappointed.

**WARNING TO FATHERS**. . .You’re Needed!

I recently watched an excellent documentary done by Louis Theroux on the epidemic of Crystal Meth. I embedded the 56 minute video at the bottom of this blog. It is well worth the time to watch it. We have a pandemic in this nation, and drug and alcohol use is only a symptom of the actual problem. Watch this video, or talk to drug abusers and you’ll quickly find out that the pandemic is mostly one of absent fathers. Men who physically, emotionally, and sexually abuse women and children–or who walk away from the home–cause abusers to begin the process of self-medication. We all go through pain in our lives, but when we don’t have a stable home with a father we can share our problems with, we must deal with the pain through some other avenue.

In 2005, the U.S. spent $500 billion on the aftermath of substance abuse. Of $374 billion spent by U.S. and state governments, less than 2% was spent on prevention. This CNN report includes figures that should make us shudder. As a society that claims to be so advanced, we are less than wise with how we handle our nation’s drug problem. Spending that kind of money on the aftermath of drug abuse while not addressing prevention is insane. Literally.

But drug use is not a story about money. It’s a story about brokenness. Watch the video and look at the pain in all of the addicts’ lives. Look at the generational cycles of abuse. Look at the absence of fathers. Listen to the stories of sexual abuse. We can boil drug and alcohol prevention down to this plea: “Fathers, you are needed.”

Men, don’t get women pregnant and run off. Give children stability by giving them a home where they can see a mother and father who love each other enough to get married and where children don’t have to live in constant anxiety of wondering if they will see their dad again. Listen to your children. Protect them. Teach them right from wrong. Get over yourselves and don’t yell and scream in front of your children. Don’t talk about how nice that lady’s a$# looks in front of your children (yes, I’ve heard men say things like this in front of their kids and saw a man walk into the “adult” section of our local movie store with his 5 or 6 year old daughter in tow).

If fathers were present in their kids’ lives, and I mean really present, the need for people to self-medicate would be greatly reduced. According to the CDC, rates of ADHD increased at a rate of 3% per year from 1997-2006, and increased at a rate of 5.5% per year from 2003-20071. What’s our answer? That’s right, it’s not prevention. . . it’s medication! In 2007, 2.7 million kids ages 4-17 were on medication specifically for ADHD. Before we jump the gun here, I’m not saying that all cases of ADHD are not valid diagnoses. What I am saying is that it should be troubling to us that, as we see high rates of broken families, failed marriages, unemployment, drug use among parents, children born out of wedlock, and high rates of child sexual abuse, perhaps studies should be done to see if there is a correlation between home life and child anxiety. I’m no genius, but I’m guessing the results wouldn’t really surprise us. Children should be carefree and safe. They should have a mom and dad who are committed in marriage and who spend time nurturing their children.

I am fully convinced that, if we are going to reverse the pandemic on drug abuse, child molestation, porn addictions, and the like, fathers are going to have to step up. We fathers need to set an example in our kids’ lives. We need to provide emotional stability. I love this proverb, and I live by it:

“Hear, O sons, a father’s instruction, and be attentive, that you may gain insight, for I give you good precepts; do not forsake my teaching. When I was a son with my father, tender, the only one in the sight of my mother, he taught me and said to me, ‘Let your heart hold fast my words; keep my commandments and live. Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth. Do not forsake her, and she will keep you; love her, and she will keep you; love her, and she will guard you’” (Proverbs 4:1-6 ESV).

7 thoughts on “*WARNING TO FATHERS* > You’re Needed!

  1. There is absolutely no doubt that father’s are needed in the lives of their children. We have created a society where father’s have no rights and until that mindset is changed we can never solve the many problems our children face in fatherless homes. Our children deserve to be loved and feel safe with both parents

    1. Wow, how true this is Jisbell! Fathers truly do not get the same rights as mothers but they should and parents should join together and come into agreement on this, putting their children first, making sure that this happens. The family court will agree if the parents agree. Thank you for adding this.

  2. This is so true and sadly not spoken of enough nowadays. As a child of a broken home of an alcoholic and sex addict I have seen the affects of a dad who is not “invested”. My dad was there physical until I caught him cheating and told my mom at the age of seventeen. But though my dad was there physically, as in married to my mom and a provider for the family he was not their for our emotional needs nor was he there for the guidance I needed growing up into manhood.
    My dads alcoholic lifestyle stemmed from his own personal issues growing up as well. But here is the thing that hurt me the most when I went to seek forgiveness from my dad as a healing step in my own walk with God. I asked him why he was never there to guide me. I asked him why he never showed love towards my mom, sister and I. His response was I was never shown it either. That broke my heart.

    Yes, men it is time to STAND and take our role seriously as father and husband. To invest time in the lives of our families. Quality time!

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