Grandparent Rights? No!

grandparents rights

There are a group of people who are currently lobbying for grandparent rights. Visitation rights, specifically.

 

They claimed June 14th as ‘their’ day.

 

Flag Day, in the US, has now been co-opted by folks who have their own agenda, and frankly, it’s a frightening one.

Many places already have provisions for grandparents to be granted access in the case of divorce or death of their adult child.

 

Not good enough for these people.

 

These folks are claiming that being estranged from grandchildren is not only elder abuse, but child abuse as well.

 

What a load of crap.

 

Now, I get that estrangement is painful. Not arguing that in the slightest.

 

But abuse?!

 

No. Just…no.

 

Adults absolutely have the right to make choices about the people they have in their lives, *and* those of their minor children. Where in a divorce, visitation, access, shared custody is an issue, because parents are assumed to have equal rights to their children, unless they’re proven unfit. Grandparents aren’t parents. They shouldn’t have the right to drag families into court, to demand access to children.

 

Not getting what you want isn’t abuse.

 

A relationship with grandchildren is not a ‘need’, regardless of what some would claim. Children also don’t ‘need’ a relationship with grandparents. It can absolutely be a lovely, enriching relationship, when all the parties are safe, sane, and reasonable.

 

However.

 

If the grandparents, for whatever reason, do not have a healthy relationship with their adult children, then how can one possibly justify handing over minor children for visitation?

 

How is this NOT an erosion of parental rights?

 

And why do some grandparents think that their desire for a relationship with someone else’s children, should supersede parental authority?

 

It’s a disgusting example of entitlement.

 

Grandchildren are someone else’s children. You didn’t birth them, you’re not raising them, you don’t have the right to a relationship that the parents have deemed not in the child’s best interest.

 

I know folks who are estranged from their parents.

 

Abuse, addictions, untreated mental illness, suspected personality disorders, deliberate and repeated undermining of parental decisions, attempted parental alienation…the list goes on.

 

I personally know of NO ONE that made such a decision on a whim. It’s been a long, hard road to travel, and repeated attempts have been made to repair and resolve any issues. Estrangement has been the LAST option exercised.

 

If someone is too toxic for a relationship with adults, then they’re absolutely too toxic for a relationship with children.

 

What kills me is that folks wouldn’t take their adult child to court, demanding use of their vehicle bi-weekly, just because they enjoyed using it. But, folks think that overruling the parents, and having the legal right to force access to their children is a reasonable thing to try to accomplish.

 

Yes, children aren’t possessions. Agreed. But they ARE the most valuable part of any parent’s life, far more than a mere vehicle could ever be. And if you wouldn’t hand your vehicle off to someone you don’t have a healthy relationship with, why on Earth would anyone think that entrusting their child to such a person is a reasonable thing to do?

 

Why do some grandparents think that they are so entitled that they deserve what parents have said no to?

 

Grandparenting is a PRIVILEGE. NOT a RIGHT.

 

If you want a healthy, ongoing relationship with grandchildren, then establish and maintain one with their parents. It’s really that clear-cut.

 

Here’s the other thing:

 

IF these folks were to be successful, the far-reaching implications are massive.

 

You get a job offer across the country, or in another country. Well, that’s ESTRANGEMENT. That prevents folks from seeing their grandchildren as frequently as they are now, so, off to court you go.

 

What happens if you’re making parental decisions that grandparents don’t agree with? By granting grandparent visitation rights, it’s saying that these folks have a right to a say in the raising of the children, isn’t it? So, if the grandparents are against homeschooling, they could take you to court to argue against it, couldn’t they?

 

Frankly, any grandparent who is willing to put a family through a court battle, has, in my mind, proven why they are estranged. They’re willing to put the family through financial hardship, to take money out of the household, that is used to support and provide for the grandchildren, in an attempt to force parents to do what they want.

 

“Sorry kids, we can’t enroll you in sports/music lessons/take a vacation/buy you new clothes, because Grandma is making us go to court.”

 

How incredibly selfish.

 

And claiming abuse makes a mockery of those who have experienced actual abuse. It’s an attempt to legitimize legally forcing other adults to hand over their minor children, regardless of what they believe is in the best interest of their child.

 

I find it interesting that the focus is all on the grandchildren. These folks don’t talk about repairing a relationship with their own children, it’s all about, “HAND OVER MY GRANDCHILDREN!”

 

Funny, whenever I’ve read anything about child predators, one of the HUGE warning signs is someone who attempts to go around the parents to access the children.

 

Grandparent rights is nothing more than an attempt to control other adults, and force them into a relationship that they have deemed unhealthy, while having access to young, vulnerable children.

 

A child’s primary relationship is with their parents. Grandparent rights seeks to erode that, by granting grandparents the same access rights as non-custodial parents.

 

Imagine, if you will, a child whose parents are divorced.

 

The non custodial parent has the child every other weekend.

 

Grandparents demand visitation.

 

Grandparents get two weekends a month. Heck, even just one.

 

So, the child loses time with their custodial parent. Or, the other parent has to give up a weekend.

 

Is it REALLY in the child’s best interest to lose time with their *parents* so that the grandparents get what they believe they’re entitled to?

 

No.

 

What about what’s in the best interest of the child? How can anyone claim that visitation with grandparents is more important than the relationship with the child’s parents? What about infants, who are exclusively breast fed? Young children who have never been away from their parents? Should they be forced into a situation that seperates them from their parents, all to satisfy another adult’s selfish demands?

 

Indeed, there was already a case in the US, Troxel vs Granville, where the US Supreme Court said no.

 

These folks are attempting to get around the US Supreme Court, by claiming it’s abusive to be kept away from their grandchildren.

 

They’re wrong.

 

 

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This article was originally published on Not A Stepford Life

 

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Paleo Chicken Pot Pie

Chicken Pot Pie (Paleo) The definition of comfort food should be “Chicken Pot Pie”. It’s simply perfect in the fall and winter months with its yummy, warm filling and delicious, crunchy dough on top. I just love this stuff, it’s truly a recipe for all year round.

Ingredients for filling:

2 Tbsp grass-fed butter
1 yellow onion, chopped

2 large stalks of celery, chopped

3 large cloves garlic, minced

2 large carrots, chopped
1.25 cups butternut squash cubes

1/4 cup chicken bone broth
1/2 cup full-fat coconut milk

3 cups leftover shredded boneless skinless chicken thighs

Sea salt and pepper to taste

1/2 tsp ground turmeric
1/2 cup chopped fresh Italian parsley

1 cup fresh green beans, cut into 1 or 2 inch pieces or peas

Ingredients for the topping:

1 cup blanched almond flour
3 Tbsp grass-fed butter

Pinch of sea salt

Directions for filling:

  • Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.
  • Melt the butter in a large pot over medium heat. Add the onion, garlic, carrots and celery, and stir. After a few minutes, add the squash. Stir and continue to cook.
  • Stir in the chicken and add the broth. After a minute or two, add the sea salt, pepper, turmeric and fresh parsley.
  • Next, add the coconut milk and green beans, and stir well. Cook 3-4 more minutes and if mixture seems like it needs more liquid, add a bit more broth.
  • Remove from heat and pour mixture into a 2-quart casserole dish. Sprinkle almond flour topping evenly over the top (recipe below) and place in oven, uncovered.
  • Bake for 20-30 minutes or until golden brown on top.

 

Directions for topping:

  • In a small skillet, melt the butter over medium heat. Reduce the heat to medium-low and add the almond flour and a pinch of sea salt.
  • Mix well, until almond flour is coated in the butter (it will be in small clumps).
  • Remove from heat and use atop of the filling, once it’s been poured into the casserole dish.

 

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Do you have Breast Implant Illness? – A MUST READ IF YOU HAVE BREAST IMPLANTS

Do you have Breast Implant Illness? - A MUST READ IF YOU HAVE BREAST IMPLANTS

What are the symptoms of breast implant illness and silicone toxicity /poisoning?

 

Breast implant illness is a period of sickness affecting the body caused by silicone or saline breast implants.  Symptoms of breast implant illness vary from body to body due to personal differences, the type of breast implants and the progression of the illness however it appears that a few symptoms show up a little earlier and more consistently such as fatigue, cognitive dysfunction (brain fog, memory loss), joint and muscle pain, hair loss and dryness throughout the body including organs and glands.  In my personal opinion, if you are experiencing fatigue, cognitive dysfunction, joint and muscle pain, hair loss and dryness throughout the body, it is your body indicating to you that the implants are causing illness and should be removed as soon as possible. Because breast implants affect most body systems, symptoms are widespread and can be related to toxicity, immune dysfunction/failure, auto-immune diseases, neurological symptoms, endocrine symptoms and metabolic symptoms.   Here is a longer list of some of the symptoms, but in no way complete, that have been associated with breast implants:

 

  • FATIGUE OR CHRONIC FATIGUE
  • COGNITIVE DYSFUNCTION (BRAIN FOG, MEMORY LOSS)
  • MUSCLE PAIN, JOINT PAIN AND STIFFNESS
  • HAIR LOSS
  • POOR SLEEP
  • DRY EYES, DECLINE IN VISION, VISION DISTURBANCES
  • HYPO/HYPER THYROID SYMPTOMS
  • HYPO/HYPER ADRENAL SYMPTOMS
  • ESTROGEN/PROGESTERONE IMBALANCE OR DIMINISHING HORMONES
  • SLOW HEALING OF CUTS AND SCRAPES, EASY BRUISING
  • THROAT CLEARING, DIFFICULTY SWALLOWING, COUGH, REFLUX
  • VERTIGO
  • GASTROINTESTINAL ISSUES
  • FEVERS, NIGHT SWEATS, INTOLERANT TO HEAT
  • NEW AND PERSISTENT BACTERIAL AND VIRAL INFECTIONS
  • SLOW CLEARING OF COMMON COLDS AND FLUES
  • FUNGAL INFECTIONS, YEAST INFECTIONS, CANDIDA
  • NEW SKIN RASHES
  • EAR RINGING
  • SUDDEN FOOD INTOLERANCE AND ALLERGIES
  • HEADACHES
  • PAIN AND SLOW MUSCLE RECOVERY AFTER ACTIVITY
  • WAVES OF MUSCLE WEAKNESS
  • HEART PALPITATIONS, CHANGES IN NORMAL HEART RATE OR HEART PAIN
  • SORE AND ACHING JOINTS OF SHOULDERS, HIPS, BACKBONE, HANDS AND FEET
  • SWOLLEN AND TENDER LYMPH NODES IN BREAST AREA, UNDERARM, THROAT, NECK, GROIN
  • BOUTS OF DEHYDRATION FOR NO REASON
  • NUMBNESS/TINGLING SENSATIONS IN UPPER AND LOWER LIMBS
  • COLD AND DISCOLORED LIMBS, HANDS AND FEET
  • GENERAL CHEST DISCOMFORT SHORTNESS OF BREATH
  • PAIN AND OR BURNING SENSATION AROUND IMPLANT AND OR UNDERARM
  • LIVER AND KIDNEY DYSFUNCTION
  • CRAMPING
  • TOXIC SHOCK SYMPTOMS
  • ANXIETY, DEPRESSION PARTIAL OR FULL PANIC ATTACKS
  • SYMPTOMS OF OR DIAGNOSIS OF FIBROMYALGIA
  • SYMPTOMS OF OR DIAGNOSIS OF LYME DISEASE
  • SYMPTOMS OF OR DIAGNOSIS OF AUTO-IMMUNE DISEASES SUCH AS; RAYNAUD’S SYNDROME, HASHIMOTO’S THYROIDITIS, RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS, SCLERODERMA, LUPUS, NONSPECIFIC AUTOIMMUNE DISEASE, MULTIPLE SCLEROSIS
  • SYMPTOMS OF OR DIAGNOSIS OF ALCL LYMPHOMA

 

What tests should I have if I suspect that I have breast implant illness? 

 

While there is no one definitive test to determine if your implants are the root of your illnesses, the following tests can be used to investigate some of the problems caused by breast implants:

 

  • ANA – ANTINUCLEAR ANTIBODY
  • CBC – COMPLETE BLOOD COUNT
  • CMP – COMPREHENSIVE METABOLIC PANEL
  • PM CORTISOL – TO CHECK ADRENAL HYPOFUNCTION WHICH IS COMMON
  • FREE T3/T4 – TO CHECK THYROID PROBLEMS
  • HOMOCYSTEINE – TO CHECK VITAMIN B12 DEFICIENCY OR FOLIC ACID DEFICIENCY
  • VITAMIN D 25 OH – VITAMIN D DEFICIENCY
  • CRP-C – TO DETECT INFLAMMATION
  • POSSIBLE CO-INFECTIONS OF FUNGUS, BACTERIA, LYME ETC.
  • EKG FOR HEART
  • MRI OR ULTRASOUND – TO DETECT IMPLANT LEAKS/RUPTURES –

REMEMBER IMPLANTS DO NOT HAVE TO BE LEAKING OR RUPTURED, THEY BLEED/SWEAT THEIR CONTENTS FROM DAY ONE.

 

Why do breast implants cause illness?

 

Breast implants cause illness because they are large foreign objects which overwhelm and impair our immune systems causing immune system dysfunction and auto-immune symptoms.  Immune system dysfunction allows opportunistic bacteria and fungi to grow out of control causing serious bacterial and fungal infections in our body which produce large amounts of bio-toxins which overload our organs.  In addition, implants are made of silicone which is a chemical soup of dangerous toxins and heavy metals that when implanted in the body begin breaking down due to body chemistry and releasing and circulating particulates of silicone and neuro-toxic, cyto-toxic, carcinogenic chemicals and heavy metals contaminating tissues, organs, glands and body systems.  Simply put silicone is a biologically active and toxic substance that causes bio-toxins and systemically poisons and impairs many functions of the body.

 

When do breast implants cause illness?
It makes no difference whether your implants are cohesive gel, saline with a silicone shell or silicone with a silicone shell.  In fact, the cohesive gel implants seem to be the worst implants because they contain more aggressive chemicals used in making the silicone cohesive.  However, no matter the implant type, sooner than you realize, all breast implants impair our immune system and the silicone shell deteriorates releasing toxins and allowing the filling whether toxic cohesive gel, saline or regular toxic silicone to permeate the shell and contaminate our body.  According to several studies, most implants deteriorate and or rupture within six to ten years but sooner in many cases.

 

Read Nicole’s story: 
I was implanted with cohesive gel implants October 2005.  The plastic surgeon informed me breast implants should be replaced every ten years to be on the safe side and I was planning on having them removed in ten years.  Despite the ten year safety plan, I first noticed breast implant symptoms only three years after implantation in October 2008.  The first symptoms I noted were brain fog and what appeared to be hypothyroidism.   Not realizing my symptoms could be from breast implants, I attempted to manage with better nutrition, exercise and supplements with some success.  But as time progressed, more symptoms appeared such as ringing in my ears, easy bruising, slow healing of cuts and scrapes, hormonal imbalances, yeast infections, ear infections, hair loss and fatigue.  Shortly, the fatigue worsened to the point I felt something was very wrong.  Then in a six month period a storm of other symptoms quickly showed up such as food intolerance/allergies, headaches, sore/aching shoulder and hip joints, aching backbone, severe dehydration at times, muscle weakness, swollen and sore lymph in the upper body, sore kidneys and liver, fevers during day, night sweats, fast/irregular heartbeat, shortness of breath, chest discomfort, burning/pain around the implant and underarm, panic attacks all finally culminating in toxic shock due to the amount of toxic chemicals circulating in my body from the silicone.

 

According to the plastic surgeon who removed my implants seven years and three months after initial implantation, they were intact with no ruptures or leaks.  Before explantation surgery, I requested my implants back and they were brought to me a few hours after I woke from surgery.  They smelled strongly of chemicals similar to wet kitchen or bathroom silicone caulking.  I inspected them very carefully and the left breast implant has an air bubble in it less than one cm in width at the inside surface of the shell.  There should be no air bubbles in cohesive gel implants which tells me the silicone shell was permeable inside my body for some time even though not ruptured.  The history of my symptoms also tells me that the silicone shells of my breast implants were permeable and poisoning me me as early as the first few years after being implanted.

 

Read more HERE.

 

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Crockpot Fajita Chicken (Paleo)

Crockpot Fajita Chicken

This recipe for Crockpot Fajita Chicken is really easy to make and so super delicious. I like it so much I made two batches and froze it all in single serving containers for eating with salads, lettuce wraps, sandwich wraps, etc. There are so many ways to prepare meals, lunches and snacks with this delicious dish and it’s a super healthy, simply hearty meal for the everyone in the family. I love to put a serving of this Fajita Chicken on top of my salad, the taste is so good, I don’t want to ruin it by adding salad salad dressing. Continue reading

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Teeccino Dandelion Caramel Nut Herbal Coffee

Dandelion Caramel Nut

I have autoimmune issues and long ago had to give up coffee. This caught my eye while out shopping so I picked a box up, NOT expecting to like it but I LOVE this coffee\tea! I thought it might just be tolerable but it’s simply FANTASTIC! I didn’t add any sweetener or milk, I just drank it black as it has a nice nutty, slightly sweet taste all its own.

 

I used one bag in 16 oz of water and let it steep for 5 minutes. It’s also great for cleaning\detoxing the liver. Enjoy!

 

Check out my Homemade, Healthy, Hot chocolate Recipe HERE. It’s allergy free, gluten-free, dairy-free and paleo.

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